“Your no is as important as your yes” is a quote that has circled around my mind since the first time I heard it about two years ago. It is said by someone that I look up to, Steffany Gretzinger. This quote means a lot to me because, as a determined person, sometimes it can be hard for me to say no to certain things or certain opportunities because I want to do it all, even if it overwhelms me. This quote can be hard to consume as a busybody.
We have to remember that every time we say yes to something, we also say no to something else. If we say yes to an opportunity, we are saying no to our time. If we say yes to a specific relationship, we are saying no to another relationship. If we say yes to anything, we are saying no to something else.
However, learning to say no is not solely about avoiding overload; it’s also about honoring our boundaries and priorities. Stepping back from the compulsion to say yes to everything grants us the space to recharge and realign with what we truly need and want in life. It enables us to discern what truly matters and to invest our time and energy accordingly.
Moreover, saying no empowers us to establish and assert our boundaries, making room for healthier relationships and a more sustainable lifestyle. By clearly communicating our limitations, we create mutual respect and understanding, both with ourselves and with others. Through this practice, we can live an enjoyable life that aligns with our values and aspirations, rather than being dictated by external pressures or expectations.
Remember, it’s okay to be a human being instead of a human doing. It’s also okay to not be sure what you should say ‘yes’ or ‘no’ to. We are all experiencing life for the first time, and we can learn how to make wiser decisions along the way. It is important to make time for others, but it is also important to make time for yourself and remember how important your ‘no’ is. Know the life you are aiming for. Figure out your non-negotiables.
