When it comes to moving out of your parents’ or guardians’ home, people tend to fall into two groups. Some are eager to embrace freedom and independence, while others find it hard to even imagine leaving the nest. Sometimes, you might feel like you are somewhere in between or experience both emotions. Moving far away, especially to another state, can make these feelings even more intense.
Homesickness is a very real and relatable experience, whether you are in college or starting a new chapter outside of it. Personally, I started to miss home more the longer I stayed away. After four years in college, I realized just how much the town and people I grew up with shaped me into who I am today. Spending 18 years there, along with most of my summers, left a lasting impact.
It is okay and completely normal to miss the comfort of home. But stepping outside of your comfort zone can open you up to experiences you might have never had otherwise. For example, while I no longer live in Georgia, being away at school has allowed me to explore the beach and the city—things I did not experience much growing up in the suburbs.
Whether you are excited about your new adventure or struggling with homesickness, know that your feelings are valid. If you are dealing with homesickness, here are some tips that might help:
Stay Connected with Family & Friends
Staying in touch with loved ones has its pros and cons. On one hand, it provides comfort and connection, but it is also important to be present with the people around you. Either way, regular phone calls, texts, or FaceTime sessions can help you feel less isolated. And if possible, see if friends or family can visit you while you are away.
Bring Comforts from Home
As a college student, I proudly bring stuffed animals from home. Whether it is stuffed animals, photos, blankets, or anything else that reminds you of home, these familiar items can create a sense of comfort and help your new space feel more like home.
Establish a Routine
Having a routine can make a huge difference. It keeps you busy and less focused on the things that make you feel sad or homesick. It is not about ignoring your feelings but rather taking advantage of what is around you. A routine could involve going to the gym, joining clubs, or getting involved in campus organizations—anything that helps you settle in and make your new environment feel more like home.
Be Patient with Yourself
This is something I am constantly working on. It is easy to offer comfort to others, but it is just as important to make sure you are taking care of yourself. Journaling has been helpful for me to process my feelings. Looking back on old entries helps me see how I have grown or where I might still need emotional support. Be patient with yourself as you work through your emotions.
Focus on Your Goals
This one is big for me. Whether you moved away for college, a job, or another reason, remind yourself why you made the move. No one wants to spend every day in a new city or at college feeling miserable, even if it feels like the easiest option. Keep your goals in sight and make the most of your experience. Stay focused on what motivated you to take this step and use it to push yourself forward.
In the end, homesickness is normal and nothing to be ashamed of. I have felt homesick even when transferring from one school to another. Your feelings are valid and shared by many. So, do not minimize them—embrace them, and make the most of your time away from home.
